First: Learn How to Hold the Sticks
This is a great series on the Moeller Method that starts from the very beginning: holding the sticks. A lot of beginners hold them like clubs or bats and swing them with their arms and hands. The inevitable result is that everything is played too loud. In order to control the volume, you need to learn how to play with your wrists and fingers. Click here to see the video with a transcript, or start by watching the first lesson below.
As you progress through the rest of the lessons, concentrate on playing evenly: the same sound, volume, movement, and stick height for each stroke of a given type.
Lesson Two: The Free Stroke
Lesson Three: The Motions
Lesson Four: The Moeller Method